Monday, January 10, 2011

About: Preparing to be a Help Meet- Pure Thoughts

"Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 3:13-14)

Pure Thoughts
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"She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness" (Proverbs 31:26)
It is human nature to climb on someone's back if you are drowning. People, especially girls who are frustrated with their lives, have a tendancy to want to bring others down. They rationalize to themselves that they are just telling what happened, just being honest, and so forth. This need to bring others down will follow you into your marriage, job and life, for there will always be those whom you will decide need "telling on." It is a death trap of Satan's. Not their death trap; yours.

Only when a girl learns to control her need to tear down, when she lets people go unmolested by her "truthful" information, will she begin to grow as a person. Every argument, evey misunderstanding, every hurt feeling--every black depression stems from someone "supposing" another meant evil toward them, used them, thought offensively toward tthem, or whatever else the mind contrives. Imagine being free from all these misapprehensions! You can be free.

"A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit" (Proverbs 15:4)
The word perverseness mans unreasonableness. Everyone thinks they are reasonable and that the one they hold in distain is unreasonable. If you have conflict with someone, chances are you are unreasonable at least half the time. If you have some irritation, scorn, or conflict with more than one person, then chances are you are the culprit in most of those relationships. No matter how sweet you think you are, it is you who lacks a wholesome tongue.

Some families, even some communities of people, seem to have a hereditary predisposition to bitterness and strife. Those raised in such an atmosphere come to accept jealousy, suspicion and evil thinking as the norm. They just assume that everyone is critical of them. Believe it or not, there is another world where people love one another and there are no feelings of bitterness toward anyone, where one never imagines that another is thinking ill of them, a world of daily peace and contentment.

"Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ" (II Corinthians 10:5)
Right now, as a single young woman, ask God to give you the wisdom to clear your soul of this plague of negative thoughts. . . Fill your soul with the beauty of a good thought-life. Expect good from people. Get busy serving others--not just your friends, but anyone who has a need. You may get treated unfairly (but probably not) and in the meantime your soul will be free to soar.

The Psalmist sung out in chapter 15, "LORD, who shall abide in thy tabernacle? Who shall dwell in thy holy hill? He that walketh uprightly, and worketh righteousness, and speaketh the truth in his heart. He that backbiteth not with his tongue, nor doeth evil to his neighbor, nor taketh up a reproach against his neighbor."


By Debi Pearl

4 comments:

Anna R. Williams said...

This is excellent! Thanks for sharing!

Emily said...

I just finished reading this book, and I found it to be very practical! I learned a lot from it. This is a great section, too. Some really good things to remember.

Zach S. said...

Emily,

It is wonderful to see godly, young ladies encouraging each other in Truth:
~ To attain a “higher mark.”
~ To think pure thoughts.
~ To let only wholesome, edifying words roll off the tongue.

“Bitterness and Envy have no room to reside when the Kind, Benevolent Savior occupies the House, — Soul.”

Great post Emily! Keep up the good work! (^ _ ^)
~ Z

Shannon said...

What truth! Thank you so much for sharing Emily, for this is something that we all struggle with.

Many Blessings,
~Shannon~